Do you remember what it was like growing up in the 70s/80s? Let's just say I'm pushing middle age and so that was around the time I was growing up and being a kid. I remember playing outside, making mud pies, taking skating lessons, running around like a terror in the backyard. I don't remember a fascination with clothing, or television, or anything outside of my immediate little world. Maybe a lot of us were like that, we didn't have the distractions of television and social media bombarding us all the time. Commercials telling us what to wear, what to play with, what to eat, and how to dress. Reality television wasn't showing us the cruelty that exists in human nature, the deceit and duplicity that people will unapologetically display in order to get ahead in a situation. Though the older generation will state that the 50s were a great time to grow up, I think the 70s/80s were just as wholesome and innocent. Maybe I'm biased, but I think a lot of the people I know who grew up in that era are pretty well adjusted and grounded. Of course your environment will affect you as an adult, which we all know is a big factor out here in Satellite Village. But that's a whole other psychological study I have yet to undertake.
Anyway, Little Man is finishing preschool this year, and next year he will start kindergarten. He is extremely excited to start a new school (though it's on the same campus) and I'm excited to meet some new moms. Hopefully out of the potential 60 out there a few will be "normal". But what I'm more worried about are the girls. I'm not talking about the teacher aides, or the teachers, or even the young girls in the elementary school. I'm talking about Little Man's classmates. Well, two girls I know of in particular. For the past year, these two girls have been boy crazy. I don't mean they just like boys, but they will literally chase the boys every day at school to kiss them and try to get them to be their "boyfriend". And they go through "boyfriends" like a sick person goes through Kleenex. I remember last year, one girl's mom told me that this particular little girl would try to have sex if she knew how, that's how "sexual" she was when she would have playdates at her boyfriend's house. Um, that's just disturbing when the parent is telling you her then 4 year old is sex crazed. Plus, these little girls like to wear fishnets and goth style clothing to school. Hello...you're five and why are your parents letting you dress up like mini sluts for preschool? The other little girl, her mom isn't a mom at all. She acts more like a friend or buddy to her child. Meaning there is no discipline or boundaries in place. This little girl has spit and kicked the teachers in the past, and has an attitude when you talk to her. But that Mom will just laugh and sigh, as if it's all very cute and adorable. Meanwhile I just want to slap her for spitting or kicking and telling her to mind her manners. But I just bottle it all in and remind myself to stay clear of this woman and her child. The last thing I want is Little Man picking up these bad examples. So when you put these two Wonder Twins together, you definitely get the feeling that you know who the fast and loose girls in high school will be.
I'm not saying that all the girls are like this, only these two. Meanwhile, the other 10+ girls in the class are the typical "normal" girls you would remember as a child. Playing with play dough or dolls. Riding tricycles or swinging on the swings on the playground. Looking for roly poly bugs, making sand castles or trying to hula hoop. These are the sweet little girls I remember from my youth, who I would want Little Man to play with, and Little Miss to be when she turns five. Not the two boy crazed disrespectful creatures who troll the playground for boys and kisses. I understand that the current generation grows up a lot faster due to media and all the highly sexualized content they are constantly bombarded with on a daily basis. But there is something to be said of a nice respectful and modest girl. Who may have an interest in boys, but won't let that become her overwhelming distraction in life.
I actually sat Little Man down and told him that there are two paths he can take in life. One is to study hard, make/have friends that are his equal, and be respectful and conscientious. Or he can take the path that includes kissing at the age of 5, not studying and basically becoming a high school drop out with no job prospects and a dead end life. Of course he decided to chose the path of success and hard work, and that means (as I told him) avoiding the kissing girls when they come around to bother the boys. Sure, you can play with them if it entails swings or the sand box or tricycles. But when they start trying to kiss you, you walk away and tell your teacher that you don't like that. I feel that this type of behavior has to be nipped at the bud now, and obviously the parents don't since they aren't very effective as told models/disciplinarians. So maybe the teachers can try to exact some control over the playground. If not, at least I'm telling Little Man to be aware and to refrain from that behavior. I just hope The Wonder Twins aren't in his kindergarten class. The last thing I need is having to deal with these moms for another year, and trying to refrain from slapping the sluttiness from their girls.
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